I can’t stand it anymore! I’m getting divorced! Before reaching this decision and starting the divorce proceedings, it is crucial to reflect on the reasons why you want a divorce. Sometimes, couples therapy helps to avoid marital breakdowns.
1. Focus on the present and future, without looking for blame
While you are having a bad time, it is challenging to think about today and tomorrow, especially if the breakup has been traumatic. However, continually stirring up the past and looking for blame for the divorce does not lead to anything. It does not provide a constructive solution to the problem.
2. Give in sometimes so that you can gain peace of mind
To have a divorce without problems, you have to know how to give in and be clear that not all battles are going to be won. For this reason, you have to prioritize and fight only the essential battles.
3. Mutual agreement divorce: it is always the best option
Getting a divorce by mutual agreement is the best option. This favors a climate of dialogue and makes it easy and quick to divorce. Even more so in the event that there are children, since a more favorable environment is created and, in addition, it allows the new situation to be assumed better and more quickly.
4. Take a realistic look at your financial situation
The separation and distribution of assets is always a sensitive issue in case of separation. Therefore, it is very convenient to make a detailed and realistic list with all the shared finances (accounts, debts, etc.), as well as the economic needs that will be had later.
5. Have all the documentation in order
A divorce process requires several procedures, which implies having many documents in order. When more “paperwork” is arranged, the work of the lawyers who are in charge of the process will be easier.
8. Use good professionals: lawyers, mediators, and a service of process company
For the divorce to be a success, it is important to surround yourself with competent and prepared professionals. You have to listen to them, let yourself be guided by them -they are not emotionally involved and can see the situation more clearly- and not generate false expectations. Consider divorce mediation, the work of the mediators is also very important. They always try to make the two parties win without there being a loser.
Contact The Active Legal today to get help with filing and servign the divorce papers. While getting a divorce is one of the most challengin situations in your life. We have years of service of process experience in San Diego and are ready to serve your needs.
